In 2005, just before my best friend introduced me to the world of pickup, I was a lonely 20 years old, and at that point in time I had a 3 year dry-spell.
I was in a crappy long distance ‘relationship’ with a girl that I hadn’t even kissed. My confidence level with women was at an all-time low.
I Was Very Insecure about My Acne, My Weight
and Totally Naive about Women
I was way too polite and afraid to be sexual around the opposite gender, always mindful of saying/doing anything that would put me out of favor.
As you can guess, my long distance relationship didn’t work out. She left me after a few months, but fortunately I wasn’t too devastated. I didn’t find her all that attractive and the relationship provided me with very little.
What I needed was a real girl next to me late at night, not an invisible friend on the other side of my phone screen.
Meanwhile I saw something curious happening to my best friend. Suddenly he was able to talk to women in bars and on the street.
At first he didn’t want to share his secrets, but then, he gave me a bunch of books and DVDs. I was skeptical about the whole seduction/pickup thing.
I Couldn’t Imagine that Any of The Techniques
Could Actually WORK IN REAL LIFE
But of course, being human, desperate and curious, I couldn’t help but watch the whole thing. I started thinking ‘Maybe it’s not all bullshit, right’?
After watching and listening to a whole DVD set of a famous PUA and reading ‘The Game’ by Neil Strauss… I was hooked. My journey into PUA began. I bought every book on seduction and pick up I could find, and consumed every single one.
The thought of not only taking control of my love life, but finally becoming that ‘cool’ player I had always wanted to become AND having massive amounts of sex with hot girls – it was all too much to resist.
First, I tried out some of the newly learned techniques on a cute girl in my social circle. We’ll call her Sarah – even though Sarah was single at the time, she made it clear that she wasn’t interested in me ‘romantically’. That time I got rejected, but I kept going, and learning pickup eventually paid off.
It took me a few weeks to regain my confidence, but I decided to approach a cute girl sitting on her own in Trafalgar Square.
I WAS SO NERVOUS that
I Immediately Apologised for Talking to Her
Needless to say, it didn’t go well.
It took another two months to actually get a girl to go on a date with me. And several more months to get an attractive girl in bed.
For the next year, I regularly went out to clubs and to the streets to pick up women. I also started hitting the gym, thanks to which I lost 20kgs of weight.
I consumed a monstrous amount of dating advice, books about women’s psychology and body language. But the most important thing was that I was constantly putting the new knowledge to use.
I tested every technique wherever I found attractive women. I can’t lie, I felt like a scientist.
After a year or so I was dating multiple women, something I had thought of as completely impossible before. I was more confident than I had ever been. I had more friends than I ever had before. I was having more sex than ever. And developed some awesome social skills on top of that. Funny thing – around that time, I’ve met Sarah again.
The icing on the cake came when I bumped into Sarah one Saturday evening, when she was out with her group of friends in central London. I hadn’t seen her for almost a year. She and her friends invited me to hang out with them.
Sarah was astonished to see how much I had changed, both physically and in attitude.
I could see straight away that
she liked the new and improved me….
Yeah, it got sexual rather quickly. Later that night I had her back in my apartment, fucking her brains out. The next morning she told me she was engaged.
I was stunned. Only a year earlier she wouldn’t even consider going on a date with me, when she was single, and now here she was about to get married, getting down and dirty with me!
That’s when I realised just how powerful this whole self-improvement thing was.